Comments for Heather's Hair http://heathershair.com Welcome to the chronicle of my hair, Heather's Hair. Tue, 07 Jan 2020 14:42:13 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.2.5 Comment on *insert title here* by Ross Hartshorn http://heathershair.com/2020/01/05/1751/#comment-2423 Tue, 07 Jan 2020 14:42:13 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1751#comment-2423 It is normal that a person who, at age 25, had a bajillion friends, at 50 will spend most of their time with a much smaller number (hopefully the subset which you like best). It’s also normal to not have the energy to fight every pointless battle with someone who’s clueless and going to remain that way even when rebuked. That thought process about a finite amount of time left, is called “wisdom”, and it’s a good thing (since it was always true, but now one is more aware of it).

You’re doing great! By the way, I use coffeeshops for reading, in part to avoid the feeling of being isolated. Of course, you may have unwanted company at coffeeshops more often than I do, but a book helps with that. A female co-worker of mine once told me that if you are reading a book about how to convert to Catholicism, no one would even make eye contact with you, so maybe you can just get a dustcover to put over whatever you’re actually reading?

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Comment on what makes me happy by heather http://heathershair.com/2019/06/14/what-makes-me-happy/#comment-2413 Mon, 23 Dec 2019 04:17:03 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1732#comment-2413 lots of projects. i stay VERY busy. i am going to try and work less in the new year. find someway to meet people. connect better?

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Comment on is it menopause? regret? fear? yet another story? by Ross Hartshorn http://heathershair.com/2019/11/01/is-it-menopause-regret-fear-yet-another-story/#comment-2396 Tue, 26 Nov 2019 13:42:27 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1743#comment-2396 I’m very sorry, I know that’s hard. It’s a great picture of you and little Obi-Wan.

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Comment on what makes me happy by Ross Hartshorn http://heathershair.com/2019/06/14/what-makes-me-happy/#comment-2272 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 13:53:57 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1732#comment-2272 Nauseatingly saccharine quote for the day:
“Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.”

It is not uncommon to not notice when you are happy. Perhaps you need a project?

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Comment on songs change mood by Ross Hartshorn http://heathershair.com/2019/05/08/songs-change-mood/#comment-2250 Tue, 14 May 2019 13:11:25 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1728#comment-2250 My impression is that modern medicine is pretty good at anything solved by an antibiotic or vaccine, and pretty good at dealing with trauma like a car wreck or broken bone, but not so great at anything else. Not that those aren’t important, they are the things modern medicine is good at because they killed most people until recently. But most other things that can go wrong (autoimmune, mental illness, cancer, obesity, heart disease) the theory and practice is not nearly as advanced.

Infection is also uniquely straightforward, compared to the rest, because there is basically one cause (more or less by definition), and if you get rid of it you’re healthy again. Not much else works that simply. Keep at it!

I wonder if listening to music while running compares with listening to music while driving a car?

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Comment on songs change mood by mathew http://heathershair.com/2019/05/08/songs-change-mood/#comment-2231 Wed, 08 May 2019 13:28:32 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1728#comment-2231 “i feel like me and the medical community are sort of randomly trying things.”

That’s basically how it works, yes. We know so little about the causes of mental illness that we just try a bunch of things that often work, until we find one that does. And of course, each new thing we try comes with a random selection of side effects.

There was a study recently about how people who are depressed feel better when they listen to depressing music.

https://www.theverge.com/2019/5/4/18528349/depression-music-sad-emotion-psychology-health

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Comment on april cannot come soon enough by Ross Hartshorn http://heathershair.com/2019/02/17/april-cannot-come-soon-enough/#comment-2084 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 16:04:43 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1723#comment-2084 You are talking about it, which is good. You will figure out what to ask for eventually. In the meantime, you have friends who want to help, who will help once they figure out how. You are tough and strong, and smart, so you will figure out what to ask for, and then you will have friends who find a way to provide it because you are funny and nice, so people will want to help.

In the meantime, I’m sure it is frustrating to not be sure what to do to make things better. I am tempted to make a dumb joke like saying that making fruit pies for your friends who like pie is what will help, but I will attempt not to make a dumb joke about a friend’s pain (whoops, I failed, well…). But, we should have dinner together sometime soon, not that it will help but why not?

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Comment on how does one title it? by Ross Hartshorn http://heathershair.com/2018/10/16/how-does-one-title-it/#comment-1948 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 18:05:12 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1718#comment-1948 Me, too!

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Comment on my brain hates me by Pamela R Owens http://heathershair.com/2018/08/14/my-brain-hates-me/#comment-1757 Wed, 15 Aug 2018 19:29:39 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1716#comment-1757 From my point of few when nasty thoughts or dreams come into my life I believe that the adversary is not happy that I am happy or at peace so he stirs the pot. I usually notice it when life all of a sudden gets hard and I say “why is life so hard” I then say “oh I know.” And then I address the adversary directly and tell him/her to get out of my life and my house. Nine times out of ten that works for me. If you do believe that there is an adversary and that there is also an advocate, then this might work for you. Love you Heather, you are an incredible person and give so much of yourself to others.

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Comment on my brain hates me by Ross Hartshornr http://heathershair.com/2018/08/14/my-brain-hates-me/#comment-1746 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 14:14:11 +0000 http://heathershair.com/?p=1716#comment-1746 From what I’ve read and know about, dreams are mostly your brain moving stuff around and rewiring, which it does while you’re knocked out for much the same reason that we turn anything off before we work on it, or update the computer’s OS when it’s being turned off or just being turned on.

In other words, while I don’t want to deny your experience, it might be a mistake to attribute too much meaning. It could even be that the things you’re seeing and feeling while dreaming are surfaced because they’re being disconnected, deleted, or otherwise removed. So, perhaps your subconscious knows what it’s doing, and since you’re getting a lot of other great things done in the waking world, one could choose to concentrate on that.

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