good thing i am seeing my therapist on monday.  Ross and i had an emotional altercation.  while he was in MI his step-mother threw him out (or something to that effect) because she is nuts.  dad did not defend Ross.  i know about Dad’s not defending their children.  their children who are suppose to mean more than anything.  anyhow, he text me an “i love you” text.  we engaged in conversation and ended up talking about sex.  i talked too much about sex with andreas and Ross stopped replying.  which is a Ross thing.  i do agree i should have waited to discuss my latest thoughts on my sex life until another moment.  anyhow, the NEXT night, he text me that he was very hurt that he had text that he loved me and i talked about sex with another man.  i apologized.

then he returned from MI and i didn’t see/hear from him for 2 days.  then i didn’t see him much at all for 2-3 weeks.  he was avoiding me.  it was obvious.  it is a Ross thing.  my guess was that he did something that he was afraid to tell me about.  he did say, at one point during those 2-3 weeks, that his life got VERY complicated, VERY quickly, when he returned from MI.  a woman, i figured. anyhow…last weekend i cornered him because he owed me money.  i called him near the end of Sci-Fy sunday.  he knew i was going to be there, and i still think he tried to avoid me.  OH!  i forgot to mention that i had invited him to have dinner with me the last night he was going to be my roommate and he said yes, but then didn’t call, and then when i text he showed up (like 10 min later) to say he had helped a friend move and he was too tired to have dinner.  i went to dinner alone and then to bed (alone).  ANYHOW, at the end of Sci-Fy sunday we went out to his car so he could write me a check (for the wrong amount…sigh) and i asked him if he was avoiding me because he was afraid of how i would respond to his “big mistake” whatever that was.  he replied that he actually had wanted to talk to me.  he told me about the first day he was supposed to take his commercial license exam and how he cried and yelled (it got postponed).  Ben thought he was afraid of failure.  i actually think he is afraid of success.  he said he wasn’t even sure he wanted to live in Alaska.  i quoted his plan back to him “live in Alaska for 3-5 years and then fly cargo and move around where he wants”.  then he commented he “still doesn’t know what to do about Denise.” (his sister’s husband’s sister)  i replied that i probably shouldn’t say anything since i didn’t feel that he was treating me very well.  he agreed that he hadn’t been treating me well.  but that was all he said.  so i left.  i said i was going to 80s night.  and i did.  but i was VERY VERY angry.

80s music isn’t angry enough.  my friend Luna thought it was, giving the example of “Shout” by Tears for Fears.  i still found that song pop-y.  80s music was about despair, not anger.  we were all going to die if the Russians didn’t love their children too.  there was no point to be angry as the two heads of state had their hands on the buttons and we had no way to change that.  ANYHOW, i listened to a lot of NIN in my car that night.

the next day AFTER HIS COMMERCIAL FLIGHT EXAM, i sent him the following message: