Daily Archives: January 21, 2002

solving problems

NOTE TO NANA: Hi Nana, so in this coffee talk I am going to talk about my beliefs around sex and amongst other things, teen pregnancy, so perhaps you might want to skip this one. I don’t think I am too extreme but I am different. Your call.

NOTE TO INDRA: Hi Indra, check with your mom before you read this!

I own a Hitachi Magic Wand. I bought it after reading Betty Dodson’s, ‘Sex for One’. (Bought it at Good Vibrations) She is the masturbation guru from the sixties. She use to have masturbation seminars for women. All of her research and educating has been with the objective of helping women have more satisfying sexual experiences. Anyhow, since my sex life is important to me, I try to keep informed and found this book at a Barnes & Noble while visiting the US. The Hitachi Magic Wand is the Cadillac of vibrators. It does not look like one of those small pseudo-penile vibrators. You could never insert the Magic Wand into yourself. There are attachments for it though that can be inserted. I don’t have any. Anyhow, this device is sure to assist any women in having an orgasm. Betty would recommend it especially to women that were not able to achieve orgasm through ‘conventional’ means. I mean, everyone is entitled to an orgasm, right? With the Magic Wand I even think someone who has no clue how to have an orgasm or is unfamiliar with sex (intercourse) could have one. Which brings me to the point of this coffee talk…teen pregnancy. I think that if all mothers bought their daughters Magic Wands, there would be a lot less teen pregnancy. I am operating on the idea that teenage girls use sex with teenage boys as a way to explore and satisfy their own hormonal needs which are exerting themselves for the first time. If we were to give the girls the Magic Wands, then they wouldn’t need the boys, thus less teen pregnancy. Now, I realize I am boiling down a huge and complicated issue to a few small ideas, but you have to admit it would help. Not sure what to do about the boys, though I suppose they could use one too. Betty even had a seminar for men on masturbation. I think the most significant problem with my idea is that this assumes that mothers have open and honest communication with their daughters around these types of topics. That in itself being true would reduce the problem of teen pregnancy, but I think my idea would take bite out of those teen pregnancy numbers as well. So I guess my idea is for those mothers out there that are looking for a way to help their daughters explore and understand their own sexuality as best and safe as possible.

Why do I have a Magic Wand if I have a wonderful sex life, which I do, with my husband? Because it is fun. And different. And, sometimes, Patrick is tired, not home or perhaps, in the shower. Helps me wake up some days. Helps me fall to sleep others.

What else is up? Had a girlie weekend. Played poker. My friend Annette and I cruised the cosmetic counters and got samples of wash and masks. Saturday before poker we tried a few masks. I used an exfoliating one and Annette used a ‘blemish zapper’ one. I am reading a book about beauty and it recommend a bunch of different products for a bunch of different reasons and problems, so we tried some. Next thing I am going to do is have 3 facials, 6 weeks apart, and then ‘cleanse, exfoliate, and moisturize’. The book says that you should get the facials to bring your skin to a starting point and then maintain the good treatment at home. I’ll keep you all posted. So far the funniest thing is that you are NOT to rub your face dry but pat it. No clue whether it really makes a difference, I still have zits, but I’m trying to hold true to the program. It is kind of fun to be girlie once in a while too.

The outfit is mostly to show off my Klara top. Got it at the Klara boutique in Praha. It is wool but feels soft on the inside. The nylons were a bit much so I might where gray tights next time instead. I don’t know.